i had faced a similar experience in my life once and when i received a question similar to it from a troubled seeker, i thought i must share it here as it may help many. i see this worry quite often everywhere. The question format was changed for obvious reasons. i only answer if it is in my capacity to by connecting to Babaji, and this time i deemed it right to answer.. So, here are the words that flowed.....
Question: What is to be done when my own people criticize and treat and make me known as a real bad person to other people. They lie every moment even for pity things. What am I supposed to do? I'm too much fed up of their lies and cheap politics. Do I need to go to each and every person to clarify about myself? No doubt I've faith in God and Babaji but still why does it happen with me that I'm affected by their behavior and get irritated by them. Please Help..
Reply: Namah shivaya... Babaji will bless you.. please ensure that you are doing sadhana twice a day.. to come out of all problems like these, which are heavily karmic, you need to do sadhana twice a day as per guru's instructions.. take his vaakyam as param vaakyam and follow everything without any contamination, and slowly things will get fine..
Irritation at such times are common, however it is important not to let the negativity overcome you because that is the work of negative energies.. As you grow spiritually, there will be lot of such obstacles coming up as the people around will find your energies strange.. Remember, they dont do most of the things consciously... it is all energy work.. like attracts like energy.. thus opposite type of energies will push away and that is when people around can tend to get a little funny..
If you, in the deepest of your heart, know and feel that you are doing right then there is no need to explain anything to anyone.. Also understand why people give trouble.. it is only to see you troubled.. a way of getting back at you. i have noticed that if people tend to get back more by trying to give emotional pain because that is the most easy and effective way out :) Know that they do not do most of the things in consciousness; it is just subconscious fulfillment they seek to derive misery out of you. So, if you want to add to their success then get troubled and irritated.. if you wish to dissuade them from enjoying your miseries, then simply stop reacting and getting troubled..
When you practice 'har haal mein khushi', the purpose of others trying to create problems will in the start be reacted with surprise and sometimes even would try to do more when you remain unaffected, just to check if the weapons they used is not being sufficient to cause hurt to you. But if you are strong enough, eventually they will realize it is of no use trying to do those things with you and they will stop because whatever they do will no more work or have effect on you.. But it is important to do self-analysis to check if you really are not the cause for those reactions or if there are any changes you can make within you; this is just to recheck that it is not your ego at play. Also do not do this just to show others that you are happy and continue suffering within but really practice 'har haal mein khushi' otherwise that will be suppression, which will only burst one day in some form..
Now 'har haal mein khushi' means being truly happy from within in any situation and that will come with the acceptance that all this is your own karma coming back to you and thus now instead of reacting and continuing the cycle, you now take a wise decision to end it all by accepting why that person is doing that to you and thus forgiving them. When you truly feel and realize this, instead of anger you will feel pity for their ignorance. Send unconditional love and vibrations of forgiveness to that person.. This will not happen by telling or casual thinking, but, this must be done during sadhana with that bhaav.. How will you know if this is working? Your reactions will become lesser and lesser and will be no more and you will also see that the bad feeling towards them fades away and you feel good about them or at least neutral.
Bring them up in front of you during sadhana (not physically) and send love energies to them and keep feeling the love flowing from you to them. If love does not flow easily, start with the words "I accept myself the way I am and I accept you the way you are. Everything is in perfect order with the creation." Visualize and feel those feelings of acceptance. Now say, "I forgive myself for everything i have done to myself and to you knowingly or unknowingly. I forgive you for whatever you have done to me knowingly or unknowingly." Visualize and feel those feelings of forgiveness. If you feel these emotions as you say these, you will notice that the next set of words will make love flow out of you. Now say, "I love myself unconditionally and I love you unconditionally. May Babaji bless you in everything you do." See Babaji blessing the karmic ties between you and the person. Keep repeating this process on and often and within few days or weeks you will see great results within yourself and them. This would depend on the quality and intensity of your bhaav and willingness to resolve the issue you use during this process in sadhana. Opportunities are coming up to clear unresolved issues... so it's wise to clear them :)
In the start it might look a little uneven or even things may shake up even a little more than usual but eventually it will fade away.. Thus by doing this you not only save yourself from unwanted happenings further but also stop a great karmic cycle of the exchange of miseries that was at play from, God knows, how many lifetimes! So, even if they dont leave you alone, you leave them alone (emotionally)... :) Gratitude to Babaji.. Namah shivaya..
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