Friday, December 13, 2013

Giving and taking advice

I was watching people coming to a holy person for infinite solutions for their infinite problems with the world they were miserably entangled with. One person came to him with folded hands and told him he had come seeking for an answer to the question that was bothering him. The holy man answered "No one in this world can give you an answer. Everybody can only give their opinion to that question but the answer lies within you and only you can find that answer."

Baba always said "Meditate on it" whenever someone went to Him for straight answers. No quick solutions were given. So true that we give our advise and suggestions to people, thinking we are helping. The advice, is something out of our own experience which need not be true for that person. A single situation can have 10 different meanings and 10 different experiences for 10 different people, and the same situation can have 10 different solutions, depending on so many factors of the individual. Giving free advices or suggestions can amount to karmic interference unless someone is requesting for that help. But even in this case saints still advice them to find the solution themselves if they are spiritual seekers as a part of their spiritual training. Saints know that seeking free advice and giving free advice is lazy business. They would prefer the seeker to do "Tapas" on it. Only if the person is dumb enough some closest solutions may be offered, which are nothing but again only pointers to working their own way out to the solution. In very extraordinary cases do saints who can look into other's karmic bundles, offer a direct solution, but then that is pure grace of the questioner and the saint very well knows how to handle that karmic situation by taking responsibility for it. Responsibility, because every act has a consequence. When we offer solutions to others we are partaking responsibility because when someone follows that advice the results of that action from the solution given, good or bad, is also shared by the advice giver. Spiritual masters can handle it, probably not learners. Moreover, the advices, suggestions and 'help' we give to others are out of our personal experiences or most of the time bookish (incomplete) knowledge. What may have been good for me from a particular experience, need not necessarily produce the same result for everyone.

Baba always meditates on whatever He wants and never seeks it from anywhere else other than the Supreme One. He teaches the same to all "If you have to seek, seek from Him, if you have to ask, ask from Him and not the world."

So, when I seek a solution for myself I need not ask others for the solution. Our own perception, intuition, faith, contemplation and meditation will surface everything, if not immediately, when the time is right. Masters and the Gurumandala sometimes waits for the 'fruit' to ripen to provide with answers at the right time. So, everything comes at the right time. Till then a seeker learns to find independent solutions by depending less on the outside world and more on the inner world, that is connected directly unto your Guru and the entire Gurumandala. Divine Love and Light...

Monday, December 2, 2013

The silent energy drainers - ourselves

Seekers on the path have many obstacles as the path to light is not an easy one.  Not easy because of the natural hurdles that one will come across.  But, most of them are self-created hurdles. Sadhna, seva, sankirtan all boost energies, cleanse the body and mind from negative clutter. Places of high energy vortex also cleanses and expands one's aura. Most seekers are very good at meditative practices and gain a lot of energy by following the Guru's path but unfortunately the biggest hurdle is sustaining those energies. Baba's teachings on non-judgement and criticism all point towards losing the energies that one gains with tapas or sadhna, seva, sankirtan. One of the biggest hurdle is loss of energy due to not being able to sustain energies. Shivirs are beautiful and even beautiful is the beautiful feeling of well being and clarity in thoughts and daily life activities after the shivir, but if one observes, this feeling subsides a few days after a shivir. What one has gained with the Guru's shakti during the shivir is unable to be sustained after the shivir.  Reason is because during shivirs one is continuously living in high energy field of the Guru and also all forms of energy loss of the seeker is reduced to minimum because one is focused on the shivir in optimism, cheerfulness, being totally in the present and meditative all the time. The biggest drain of energy are those which are overlooked easily by a seeker. When we go back into the world we get back into interaction with the world. We come across people or situations who are negative and then blame them for draining us. It is never in others; everything begins from us itself.

The greatest energy loss that we unknowingly subject ourselves to is IDLE CHAT or IDLE GOSSIP.  Many Masters even condemned it openly because in olden times, people had lot of time to sit and chat. They met frequently and just chatted away. In today's world, people don't have to meet but can have glorious chats with their virtual presences on messengers, social networking sites, emails, and SMS or text messaging. Few phones even have specially built softwares to support chatrooms and group messaging, etc. Whatever beautiful names might be given to these, chat is chat, and idle chat is nothing but GOSSIP.
How are you, where are you, who are you, what did you eat, what did you see, what did you hear, what is happening in the world, what is happening in someone's house, what is happening in someone's life, where did he go, what did she do, why did this happen, how did that happen, where is the world going, who died today and how, who killed whom, news updates, television soaps updates, BIG BOSS updates, results of the final Dance competition, new political moves, what my son did, what my daughter failed to do, how my parents ruined my life, how my spouse spoiled my day, how my friend made my day, etc, etc, etc…. it’s just endless.  With spiritual seekers it might not be any less, except the topics change - Where is the Guru, what is He doing, why is He doing what He is doing, why is He not doing what He is not doing, what is happening with Guru bandhus, what is happening with other Gurus, what is the news update about the convicted spiritual person, what is your experience, listen to my experience, listen to my problem, share your problem, how to save the world, how to get into a revolution, the spiritual condition of the world, where has someone reached in their sadhna, how someone has fallen from the path, how someone has entered into the path, blah, blah, blah... it goes on. What a great loss of energy.  Anything talked or thought about without a concrete purpose is a total waste. 

Everything we talk, think and act upon needs energy. The greater the intensity of emotion involved, the greater the loss. Even worse than idle chat with others is the idle chat with the self. There is great loss of energy even in self-chat. Mind goes on babbling endlessly. The more one has outer chats, the more there will be inner ones. This is because the mind cannot stay silent now, so when there is no one to chat with, it will start chatting with itself. Where can ‘being in the present moment’ come with this? Where can one remain connected with the Guru when the mind is chatting away precious energy. These do not happen when you are around your Guru, when in a shivir, because all these useless activities just cease there. The reason i write this is out of experience. The reason i do not use  phone or chats or interactions of any sort for the past two years is this. People get offended when i don't interact much or chat or answer questions that are nothing more than chat. Some call it ego and some pure divineness…. lol… I personally feel it's none but just an individual’s personal preference of living, but certainly for some valid and useful reason, never out of any purpose of ignoring or hurting anyone. In fact, more love is flowing to those who felt so now as i write this...lol. It is my solid experience that until you learn to conserve energies you cannot sustain them.

Baba teaches that more than what you do in your sadhana is what you do the rest of the hours of the day.  What use if we boost our energies in sadhana, only to lose it in useless activities and drain everything that was gained in that sadhna, only to sit next day morning and revive it and feel good about it. Everything in sadhna erupts from silence. If we do not train ourselves to silence the mind, we will have all sorts of trouble during sadhna, because now the mind cannot focus, cannot relax, cannot silence itself. The mouth that talked all day long, now when shut, only stops words, but they manifest into suffocated thoughts.  There is so much we gather from morning to evening in our interaction with the world. It is like gathering ants in an empty vessel whole day.  The whole day ants will be running in and out of the vessel.  Every ant is a like a thought.  Then when we sit for sadhna we want to put a lid over the vessel (shutting the mouth) and expect everything inside to be still.  There will be only chaos inside.  Unable to still the mind, frustrated, the moment we get up from an unsuccessful attempt in sadhna, we open the lid, and the moment the lid opens, all ants run out.  Thoughts are similar, they gush out in the form of words and actions out into the world.  The cycle is endless.  It is certainly not that one must not think or speak but if we refine only that which is really important and of 'purpose' then we will know that 90% of the thoughts and words are not required.  It begins with keeping a watch over one's thoughts, words and actions and slowly reducing and cutting out those which is not of any use or even that which can cause harm in fact.  We should not forget that all that we talk, hear, think and do are being nailed into our subconscious that we today or later will have to again face in some or the other way.

Everything from contemplation to sadhna to prayers to sankirtan to seva, all need a great requirement of a silent mind to be able to benefit out of what is being done.  Even a chaotic mind in seva is of no use, because only the body is doing a dead task.  A chaotic mind in sankirtan is of no use, because one is singing something which one is not even feeling because even during singing or praying mind is thinking something else.  What use is that act?
If one is doing sadhna with the mantra either through an external device or mental chanting, the mind still has a tendency to wander.  There is no connection with the mantra or the feel of it’s subtlety because the mind is busy thinking something else.  All this due to the very simple things that are ignored.  Idle chat. Self-chat. Unwanted talks.  Beginning with these external disciplines of mind automatically starts training the mind for inner purposes.  Everything is co-related.  The mind should be trained to talk only that which is necessary and rest of the time avoid the temptation to speak or comment or advice or suggest or voice opinions or discuss or argue or debate.  It is not really required.  It is only our false feeling that our opinions, advice, suggestions, sharing, is needed everywhere.  It really is not.  It may be important and needed at some times, at some places, with some people but certainly not all the time. Judging someone is idle talk, criticizing someone is also idle talk, discussing politics is idle talk.  The loss is not just the energy that is lost through all this but the amount of negative karma that we unknowingly attract.  When we start realizing how least important we are and how least out opinions matter in the creation, sustenance and destruction of the creator’s creation, our minds will stop with the urge to jump into talks and conversations anywhere and everywhere.  When this ceases, even the urge to talk with one’s own self will cease.

This is for many of my friends who write to me about the difficulties in silencing the mind.  i may have not mastered it, but have learnt many things which i am sharing, if it may help. Most of the times we never even realize that the time and energy we spend in extinguishing fires in our mind through so many methods would not be required if we understand that we ourselve have not only ignited those flames but also are unknowingly fueling it! What confusion and chaos it is to fuel fire at one end and struggle to extinguish at another end.  Think about it.  Check it out.  This will help a great, great, great deal in our sadhna.  It has certainly helped me to a very large extent, so I speak out of own personal experience.  So much we can help, if we help ourselves :) This article is strictly only for sincere seekers because for others the contents will seem interesting but after a few minutes this would have turned out to be yet another time-pass article :)

Divine Love and Light.

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